More Confident When Dating in 24 Hours and 4 Steps
can be one of the most nerve racking, scary things to do. It should
be exciting and an opportunity to meet a like-minded person and
discover more about each other. There are some people who can join
in any conversation with ease, are always the first person on the
invite list for a party, are liked by everyone, can talk to anyone
about anything and hold their attention – then there are the
rest of the 99% of the population.
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…..for everyone else who’s still reading we understand
comments such as ‘why would anyone be interested in what I
have to say’, ‘I’m shy and find striking up conversations
difficult’ and ‘I’m not a very confident person’.
We have put together 7 useful steps to remember and follow before
a first date. In fact these can useful for any uncomfortable social
situations to help you see the situation for what it is –
learn them, follow them and repeat them:
Make sure you have your 10 Silent Fillers. It can be difficult and
awkward on a date if the conversation starts to drop. Be prepared.
Write down 10 topics to talk about or questions to ask. These are
your emergency fillers to use when needed. They should be open questions
that allow your conversation to keep flowing e.g. have you been
on holiday or planning to this / next year? Which can then flow
on to what made you choose that destination? What type of holidays
do you like? If you could choose one book to take on a holiday what
would it be?
As well as your 10 Silent Fillers you can then jot down some follow
up questions to use to keep the conversation flowing. This alone
can give you enough for an hour or more and should be plenty.
Preparation is one of the biggest and most powerful confident boosters
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Repeat very clearly to yourself (over and over again if needs be)
that your date is likely to be as or more nervous than you are.
Realising both of you are as nervous as each other can also build
your confidence. Your date will be nervous, worried, want to make
a good impression for you. Will be spending time getting ready,
putting on that special outfit, planning their activities and perhaps
even putting things on hold – just to meet with you.
The great thing about dating and online dating sites is there are
tens of thousands of sigle people looking for love. Yes you have
found an attraction but it’s only dinner. A chance to find
out more about one another, likes and dislikes and whether you have
a connection. If so great a second date is on the cards, if not
you haven’t lost anything – hopefully had a nice meal
or lunch with a new person, and each date is just better experience
to build on your confidence.
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It links to the first point of preparation but don’t leave
outfits, journey method and time and anything you need. Rushed dates
can lower your confidence – be prepared and be confident
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